My New Website, Blog and Book!

If you have enjoyed my blog site, 365to50, I want to let you know that I will be moving to a new website and blog site. This new site, CoachDonNewman.com will have the same great content as my old site but with a whole lot more. To go to my new site and sign up for my weekly blog post just click Coach Don Newman.

I also want to let each of you know that I finally wrote my very first book and it is really doing well on Amazon. In fact, it got as high as #5 on Amazon’s New Hot Releases List. You can go to Amazon to read about and preorder the book. Just follow this link Respond Up.

I am looking forward to hearing from each of you as I launch my new book and my new website.

Blessings,

Don Newman

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Father’s Day! Neck Ties and Tea Cups

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This weekend we will once again honor our fathers on Fathers Day. Like many of you, I will hear expressions of love from my own children, while also reaching out to my own dad. It is a wonderful day full of love and admiration.

Recently, as I was getting dressed for a wedding and working on a new necktie I bought for the occasion, I had this thought about neckties. Some people believe neckties were created to torture modern man (and I tend to agree with that as well). I also had this thought: perhaps God created neckties. Not to torture everyone who doesn’t want to wear a tie, but rather to be a rite of passage between a father and a son. I still remember my dad teaching me how to tie my first necktie, as well as the first time that I taught my son. A lot can go on while a father teaches his son how to dress up and look his best.

It really is more than just learning how to tie a knot; it’s about becoming something. Just like a necktie, I believe God may have created little tea cups to help fathers develop a rite of passage with their daughters. As they are drawn to the floor to sip imaginary tea with their princess, they are teaching much more than just how to hold a tea cup. They are conveying a thousand meaningful messages without even knowing it. In these moments, children are more than just taught—they are truly being fathered.

Fathering is more than just bringing about the conception of a child. It’s really about teaching the child to know who they are and who they can become. Each one of these moments holds a special time in which worth, love and value are transferred from father to child.

The heart of fathering truly comes from the idea and desire that life should continue beyond our own lives. To have your name or your character live on through the lives of your Children is the desire of every father, including our Heavenly Father.

Like neckties and tea cups, our Father God also creates things in our life that require his involvement and time. Each time we interact with God in regards to our life, our job or our marriage, he is not only teaching us how to do it, he is teaching us who we are and who we can become.

As I work with authors that are fathers, I encourage them to write for their children, both natural and spiritual. I do this because I believe every great message of influence begins with a simple desire to influence those whom God has given us to father. It just happens that sometimes those messages are also meant for thousands of others who are just like the children you love and lead.

On this special weekend, as we celebrate Fathers Day, I would like to wish every father a very special day. May God touch you and minister to you in a very personal and meaningful way. I pray that no matter what your past experience has been as a father, you will experience the joy and significance of being the kind of father who parents many into their future destiny.

I would also like to pray for everyone who has lost a father, or never known what it was like to have a father in the first place. It’s not a cliché to say that God is a “father to the fatherless”; it is his actual word and promise. While He may not teach you how to tie a necktie or how to sip tea like a princess, he will teach you much, much more. He will show you how special you really are, and will become the father you may have never had. In him you will find more then you ever may have lost. He is not a substitute—he is the original father of us all.

Happy Fathers Day!

Article originally written for Xulon Press Publishing Company.

The 365 Day Journey Begins Again!

Three years ago I made a decision to change my life by working on changing three specific areas in my life before I turned 50. I blogged during that year and named my blog 365to50. Since then I have repeated some of the principals I learned, but not the entire plan for an entire year. I just turned 52 last weekend and have decided that it is time to revisit the 365 Day Plan. It was a memorable journey and it changed the course of my life in several areas. One of the biggest areas was in the area of learning to become healthy through participating in Triathlons with my daughter Brittnee. We just completed our fifth event on Saturday.

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Here are the areas that changed in my life by doing this for a full year before I turned 50.

  • I started competing in Triathlons with my daughter Brittnee. We just competed in our 5th Triathlon yesterday.
  • I finally got started on my first book. Although I didn’t finish it that year, I finally did start it. I am now over halfway with finishing it!
  • I started reading more books, great books that could change my life and make me a better person.
  • Most of all I learned the secret of having a full year to achieve life changing goals. There is a secret to making goals for one full year and I will be sharing some of the things I am learning from that process this year.

The 365 plan is simple but not easy. It is built around identifying the key areas you want o change in and spending a full year planning and tracking those changes. Because this principle is so powerful, I have decided to do it once again.  I also have decided to start blogging again while I am moving through this year. Since I am wanting to continue this blog, I am changing the name from 365to50 to 365toChange. It’s not about turning 50 anymore but now it’s about changing my life over the next year, one day at a time. I have a new saying for this year and for this journey.

“Change a day and you can change a year, Change a year and you can change your life”

Here is what I am planning to do in the next year before I turn 53 years old next September.

  1. I am going to finish my first book before the end of this year and start my second book by February 2016. My goal is to have one book published and my second manuscript finished before I turn 53 next September.
  2. Lose Weight! I am determined to not give up the fight to win this battle. My goal is to lose around 1 to 1.5 lbs per week over the next 365 days. That would move me from being 282 to being about 215lbs. This goal also includes goals for Healthy Eating, Regular Exercise and Better Sleeping Habits.
  3. Work on developing a new outlet for ministry that I feel called to develop. One where I would deepen my own ability to encourage and coach others as I define what this will look like and how it will function.
  4. Read and review 12 books that I find to be impactful and life changing. My goal is to share what I learn from them for anyone wanting to change their own life.
  5. Deepen my relationship with God! I am looking specifically to deepen my ability in Spirit led prayer. This month I am specifically praying for Law Enforcement Officers. As the year continues I want to grow in my ability to follow God’s leading in prayer.

While these are the 5 areas that I will be focused on during the next year, there are other areas I also plan to grow in over the next 365 days. Those areas include my Marriage, Career, Family and Finances. For this blog I will be sharing everything I learn as I continue this journey for the next 365 days. I encourage everyone to follow along and please provide feedback. Your feedback will not only help me but others that will be reading my blog.

NEXT WEEK: I will answer the question I most often hear from people that I am coaching for life change. The most often ask “I want to change a lot of things in my life, which ones do I work on first?”

Blessings,

Coach Don

Top 4 Reasons Why Writing a Book this Father’s Day Could Change the World

This Sunday we’ll celebrate fathers. Some of you will take dad out for his favorite steak, while others will simply call to say “I love you.” For me, my favorite was the year my kids surprised me with a new grill. They sent me out into the backyard to cook steaks on my old, rusted-out grill. When I realized there was no gas in the tank, I had no choice but to run to the store and exchange the empty tank. When I returned with the full tank to connect it to the grill, I found in its place a brand new, shiny, chrome-brushed grill that was twice the size of my old one. I’ll never forget it.

Some of you will not be able to celebrate with your father the way my kids did with me. The reasons can vary; perhaps a dad has passed away, or you’ve never even known your father. My prayers go out for anyone facing those feelings today, and I hope you’ll feel the healing hand of God. I’ll touch on that below.

In light of this special day, and what it means to so many, I was inspired to think of the ways books about fathers can have an influence on fathers and everyone that celebrates them.

1) Books can influence fathers for years to come. If God has spoken to you about writing a book on being a great man, just think of the effect that could have on current or future fathers! Xulon recently released a new title by Pastor G.F. Watkins titled The Alpha Male, and the Women Who Get Them. It’s a great book about what it means to be a man. I believe it will help thousands of men avoid the pitfalls that can destroy generations.

2) Books can pass on legacy to your children’s children. On a weekly basis, I speak to someone who wants to leave a legacy in print for future generations. The desire to see one’s offspring carry forward the honor of the family name is a core desire of almost every father; even if their actions in life say otherwise, it is there. The father who takes the time to write it now, however, is sending a message in an open time capsule which allows future sons and daughters to look in and learn.

3) Books can honor forefathers from past generations. I have worked with several authors who were writing a book to honor the men who came before them. The desire to honor and preserve the legacy of a father, grandfather or past ancestor is a desire not easily quenched. Those who carry it feel called to be the one who ensures future generations hear the stories. If you feel called to write as a tribute to a father or grandfather, there is no better day to start than Father’s Day!

4) Writing a book doesn’t just impact others—it also impacts you. The first person affected by the book you will write will be you. The act of writing brings healing and understanding like no other act can. Some of you will write a book and become a better father yourself, while others will write and find the love and understanding to forgive a father who needs to be released. All kinds of things happen in the heart of the writer when they write. “The first words you write are the key to unlocking your own heart and soul.”

My prayer is that many of you will decide to begin your writing journey this Father’s Day, and experience all that God wants to do within your own heart.